Today, more than ever before there have been so many cases or stories that I’ve heard from others as well as in myself to what I’ve experienced for so long is the people’s attitudes of others that are different either they’re on the spectrum, or if they’ve got some other special needs, etc is that if they’re accepting of others or if they’re not. I have noticed that some people can be accepting yet they’re still unsure how to respond or treat others that are different no matter who and what they are. My question is do we really know what exclusion is the difference between this and inclusion? Exclusion as a definition and reminder to us all is defined as an act or instance of excluding, the state of being excluded. So, therefore, the exclusion is to prevent or restrict the entrance of, or to bar from participation, consideration or inclusion.So, this is where the exclusion part comes into place.
Forgive me if I go off on this, but why is today’s society so exclusive to people and not inclusive like it used to be?
Why is today’s society so harsh on each other, but yet so nice at the same time?
I guess it depends on how you are raised and how you are brought up, and how you value others and their respect, and how you value others and their feelings, for when you include someone, you accept their emotions, you accept their feelings, you accept for who they are, you accept the type of person they are, and you love them nonetheless.
Exclusion and the instance of bullying are to separate from one person to another their values. Exclusion is the lack of self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence and the lack of self-control, albeit being obvious that the bully has an utter lack of self-control because they are being exclusive and intolerable to people who are nice and who are brought up the right way. Because in my opinion people who are bullies have been either bullied by someone they know, who was a friend to them, or they are bullied by someone within their family. So they have to take it out on someone else.
They find someone else who they feel they can control and who they feel that they can be superior to and start bullying people. When did that become such a serious issue? When did bullying and the exclusivity of people of separation become an issue to the point where it has to have an end result of being a suicide or someone being hospitalized or someone being interrogated when they are not the victim when in actuality they are, and when they are the bullied victim, but yet they are the ones interrogated when it’s the bully’s fault to begin with because they were doing the bullying?
When did schools become so exclusive to the point where they feel that instead of sticking up for their students and teaching them right and wrong where they should be in school? When did schools become so exclusive to the point where they feel they have to sweep bullying under the rug and not stick up for the teachers or the students who are at their schools?
When did schools become so exclusive to the point where they have no emotions or lack thereof with the students that are in their schools to where they feel they have to keep sweeping bullying under the rug and not teach preventive measures? When did schools become so exclusive to the point where they do not allow or teach bullying education in their schools to show what is right and what is wrong, what is acceptable, and what is intolerable to those who are in that school?
When did society become of age when bullying became so intolerable that students have to bear it at their school to the point where they have to be taken out in order to have an education? When did society become so exclusive that schools and school administration and higher-ups like superintendents have to be so rude, crude, and not live up to their potential of protecting the students within their schools and keeps sweeping bullying under the rug and not protect the students within their schools, within their districts, within their towns, but the whole entire world?What angers me the most as well as hurt me the most is the attitude towards or to others that if you don’t like it then leave… And, where I’ve come across this statement from others is from some schools, friends, teachers, businesses, organizations and so many other places that involve others to participate and to get involved in the community to belong somewhere. As I am trying to do and here goes this word TRYING really hard to fit in if need be or to blend in with my peers wherever I am to participate in community events, community groups, etc. I am trying my best and hardest to access the services I may need for myself to better improve myself and to prepare myself for the real world of what we are to become. I am trying to make friends. I am trying to make contact with others in any way possible. I try my hardest to find a way that works for me to participate in everyday activities that others are doing.
When sometimes I myself or anyone that is most likely autistic is asking or receiving from others return is rude and incredibly lazy, of the people thinking or say it in a way that is, “I don’t want to have to bother with that and maybe we should give up! Maybe you don’t need friends, maybe you don’t need the health care and treatment you need, maybe you don’t need the education, maybe you don’t need to go to some public spaces and events that are happening, maybe you don’t need a job, etc. All of these things that we hear about that we all or some of us may take for granted are stripped from others who just think that we are either not good enough or don’t deserve to be in an environment that involves interacting with people. As we know that for everyone interaction with people is important to gain more friendships, the building of trust, the building of relationships and so much more. In saying this that there are often a lot of barriers and hurdles that we autistics have to go through and endure from others and everyday situations we face that involve participating that we face and struggle on daily. Others can’t see it as sometimes they are the ones that do cause some friction and some difficulties for us when we want to be involved and feel included in anything that we do on a daily.As for us, Autistics who are advocating for ourselves to make it a better fit for us, for a little bit of flexibility and understanding, empathy and inclusion can be frustrating for a lot of us to the point is that we may end up giving up and isolating ourselves from the group that will also lead to many other different problems. Just to hear the attitude of, “Well, I don’t think that I am the best service for you.” Let’s give you an example to explain it more, let’s say that your child has special needs and you’re trying to find a school that is accepting of others’ differences and then when you come to meet the principal and teachers to have a quick meeting to sit down and talk to see what you can help and they can help to better these needs and meet them, then you hear the words, “I’m not sure, we have the capability to meet your needs.”I don’t think that we’re a good fit.” It’s in your best interest to find somewhere else. This isn’t good enough as we know that the parents are doing their best for their children to get the right education and training in their children’s lives to better themselves and prepare for what is to come. This is so not good enough! Why is this? This is basically saying – “You don’t belong here!” “And, we’ll be not making any effort to include you and make our services accessible to you!”And, when this has happened a few times in my life while growing up, and still sometimes face this dilemma to this day, that I get frustrated and angry about this along with other mixed emotions and I get a few comments from my friends and some parts of family to say, “Why don’t you go with your feet and just look at it this way, that this company or organization is treating you this way, go somewhere else.”If this employer is treating you like this, go somewhere else.” And this does sound like it makes sense and is simple for many of us to up and leave if they’re not treating me the right way, I won’t give them my business, time, etc, right? But, at the end of the day how I look at it and feel is that I for one as an autistic as well as maybe a few others like me don’t have that many options that are left as we may not have nowhere else to go as again no matter where we go if we tried, we may likely get the thoughts and attitudes from others that “I may not be a good fit.” “I don’t think that we can accommodate you and your needs.” And, that’s why I’m passionate about what I am doing right now here on my channel as well as keep trying even if certain situations that I face may not work out for me and just keep moving forward with a positive attitude and mindset. If I can and want to, if need be I will try and find a solution if need be yet if I can’t then, just need to learn to let go and say, “Okay this didn’t work and I can’t control this situation I am facing, time to let go and breathe and start again in a different way.” This attitude from some of the others that I’ve spoken to or met is saying to me “We don’t serve your kind here.” “We don’t want to accommodate you.” “We don’t wish for you to participate in our business no matter what it is.”
Some of the things that we are talking about here of the major important things in our lives, like going to school, making friends or trying to build up a friendship or relationships with people around us, and going to some places that we like to go to as a hobby or interest.You see where I am at the moment, I am trying to do for advocacy is flexibility and inclusion of others as I try to find as many possible solutions while sometimes, yes I can be difficult in trying to find the needs to be meeting of others. The degree of flexibility and inclusion is important to me and should be for others that do advocate for others to make anything accessible that needs to be accessed. I’m privileged that I have a voice and can speak out my opinions and thoughts to try and advocate for myself. And what irks me that is the knowledge that one of me doesn’t have a powerful or useful voice to advocate for themselves and be included. So, that is one of the reasons to why I get angry about the people’s attitude towards exclusion if you don’t like it then leave. It may sound denying-ably enough on the inside but this is limiting as this denies people access to the right accommodation and support services that they need. I can’t stress it enough that all AUTISTICS WANTS TO BE INCLUDED AND FEEL ACCEPTED IN GROUPS. Yet, we face a lot of barriers no matter what we do or we go and turn. Participation for everyone is important.
