LETTING GO

I know that we need to move on forward and to try and forgive others that may have said and done wrong to or toward us no matter what it was or how big or small that issue was that we may have been through yet, to be frank, I am blessed to be alive no matter what has happened as I have learnt now that I am not a victim through somethings as I am a victor. I am not a loser despite losing a few fresh and known perspectives that I have learnt along the way be it my self-confidence, self-worth, integrity and more I am becoming a victor despite having to pick up all the broken pieces that were left behind and to start over and over again. This can be almost like a never-ending battle and cycle that I endure and go through despite my choices and more that may have affected me or tried to let me become affected one way or another. I am learning to try and choose my battles wisely with what I go through. I have learnt that no matter what battles and struggles I go through sometimes some battles cannot be won or fought with. Like without having these hardships that we endure and face every day what will become of us obviously is by choice of nature and all to where we are heading now and in the future despite that many of us fear what may lie ahead of us. I am sure as hell one of them yet am trying to grasp with my whole heart, life and hands to be able to trust the unknown to what needs to be done at least in the present to make my future a better one for me no matter what.

Yes! I strongly believe wholeheartedly that we all have our limits to what we can and cannot handle in our everyday lives. Yes! I strongly believe wholeheartedly that we all have our limits to what we can say and do in our lives as well as in the lives of others that come in our social circle. Yet, we need to remember that we cannot push them or try to change them no matter what we have hoped or dreamed of based on our high expectations. As in our life and journey, we are here to learn, grow, laugh, breathe, live and more.
Yes! Sometimes, I agree that life is not easy and sometimes some situations we face can be difficult yet some people may choose to choose the easy way out by just running away from it than confronting it or tackling it head-on. I believe that we should not live our lives in the fast lane as we are here to live every day to not take everything that is so small for granted I believe with the little perceptions of life to what we are given that we will be given the bigger understanding and picture later on to understand. Sometimes, it is like a jigsaw puzzle that may not fit one way or another but that is okay. We should not have to live our lives in the fast lane we need everything given to us now and on a silver platter. Some situations we may face we need to endure first as everything is a test in our lives – BIG and SMALL.

Have you ever felt so much burning hate or being mad at someone for what they may have said and done to or towards you that it has hardened your heart with that hate, darkness and unforgiveness that in turn will cloud your thinking, perceptions, thoughts and judgement in your everyday life choices? Have you ever felt mad at someone for whatever has been said and done to or towards you that the only way you think for the best answer is to seek out revenge at whatever the cost will be in life to hurt that person that you love, may love or thought you love based on this as it will not affect just you but others around?! Have you ever felt any negativity or a form of a grudge denying the fact that you are not the problem yet you are and not able to accept the responsibilities and accountabilities for your own actions and words? Have you ever felt any negativity that others around you are getting ahead in their life and you feel that you are or maybe stuck in a rut? Have you ever felt any negativity or towards them that you will lose them as friends etc. and all that they have tried to do for you were to help you, support you or even understand you as a person?

People in our lives come and go in a season and a reason in time. Some may test us in our lives to make or break us. Sometimes, we need to know for ourselves when enough is enough or what we need to change ourselves as we all have our breaking point to a point of no return. We all need to learn self-respect and more to know what we can do and know our limitations of what we can and cannot do and allow what is acceptable and real. Again, that is up to us by choice.

How to let go

We tend to want to know how to let go of someone who we were with for a long time or even the ones that we love and feel it is time to let go or not.

It’s human nature to fight for things that matter to us. We might long for the past, wish that someone we love hadn’t left us, or hold onto anger from the times that we were treated unfairly. But holding onto things and people that we can no longer have isn’t good for us. It keeps us stuck in memories of our past and prevents us from noticing and appreciating what we have now. So let’s talk about how to let go of all the things that we tend to cling to—the past, anger, love, fear, and more.​

Some habits, including practising mindfulness and creating physical distance, can help you let go of an emotionally painful experience. Talking with a mental health professional can also help. It’s a question many of us ask ourselves each time we experience heartache or emotional pain: how do you let go of past hurts and move on?

Holding on to the past can be a conscious decision just like letting go and moving forward can be a conscious decision.

Tips for letting go

One thing that connects us as human beings is our ability to feel pain. Whether that pain is physical or emotional, we all have experiences of being hurt. What separates us though, is how we deal with that pain.

Experts have shown that when emotional pain prevents you from healing from a situation, it’s a sign that you aren’t moving forward in a growth-oriented way.

One of the best ways to heal from hurts is to learn lessons from the situation and use those to focus on growth and forward momentum. If we get stuck in thinking about what “should have been,” we can become immobilized in painful feelings and memories.