🌱 Understanding Expectations at Work
Knowing what is expected of you at work can make a major difference to confidence, wellbeing and performance. Yet expectations are not always communicated clearly.
Performance conversations can include everyday feedback, supervision, probation reviews, formal appraisals, development planning and discussions about concerns or changing responsibilities.
For autistic, ADHD and other neurodivergent employees, clear and specific communication can be particularly helpful. Difficulties can arise when expectations are implied, feedback is vague, priorities change without explanation, or workplace communication relies heavily on unwritten rules.
This page provides practical guidance for navigating performance, feedback and workplace expectations across Europe while recognising that employment laws and procedures vary between countries.
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🎯 Clear Workplace Expectations
Employees generally work best when responsibilities, priorities and standards are understandable. Clear expectations also reduce the risk of misunderstandings between employees and managers.
Role & Responsibilities
- What tasks are part of the role?
- Which responsibilities are highest priority?
- Who should you ask when something is unclear?
- What decisions can you make independently?
Standards & Outcomes
- What does successful work look like?
- How will performance be assessed?
- What deadlines or targets apply?
- How will changes be communicated?
💡 Helpful Strategy
If an instruction feels unclear, asking for a written example, priority order, deadline or definition of the expected outcome can make the task much easier to understand.
💬 Feedback That Helps
Constructive feedback should help someone understand what is working, what may need to change and what practical next step can be taken.
Helpful Feedback Is Often
- Specific rather than vague.
- Respectful and focused on the work.
- Given with enough context to understand the issue.
- Balanced with recognition of what is working.
- Connected to an achievable next step.
Questions You Can Ask
- “Could you give me an example?”
- “What would you like me to do differently?”
- “Which part should I prioritise first?”
- “Could you put the main points in writing?”
- “When should we check in again?”
📋 Performance Reviews & Check-Ins
Workplaces may use informal check-ins, probation meetings, annual appraisals, development conversations or more formal performance processes.
Before a Review
- Review your role and current responsibilities.
- Write down achievements and completed work.
- Note positive feedback you have received.
- Identify challenges or barriers.
- Prepare questions you want to ask.
During a Review
- Ask for clarification when needed.
- Take notes or request written notes afterwards.
- Discuss realistic goals and priorities.
- Raise support needs where appropriate.
- Confirm what happens next.
🧠 Neurodivergence & Performance
Performance should not automatically be confused with communication style, eye contact, social presentation or whether someone works in exactly the same way as their colleagues.
Possible Workplace Barriers
- Vague or implied instructions.
- Rapidly changing priorities.
- Sensory overload.
- Frequent interruptions.
- Executive-function demands.
- Unstructured meetings.
- Unexpected changes.
Helpful Approaches
- Written instructions and priorities.
- Clear deadlines.
- Regular predictable check-ins.
- Advance notice of significant changes.
- Breaking complex work into stages.
- Clarifying who is responsible for what.
💜 Different Does Not Automatically Mean Poor Performance
A person may communicate, organise, concentrate, process information or approach tasks differently while still producing excellent work. Good performance management looks at the actual role, expectations, barriers and outcomes rather than relying on assumptions about how an employee “should” appear.
🤝 Support & Workplace Adjustments
If a disability or neurodivergent difference affects how work is carried out, workplace adjustments or accommodations may sometimes help remove unnecessary barriers.
Examples might include clearer written instructions, changes to communication methods, quieter working arrangements, structured supervision, assistive technology, predictable scheduling or other practical changes appropriate to the role and workplace.
♿ Related Aspie Answers Guidance
Our Europe workplace collection also includes dedicated guidance about disability, accommodations and workplace adjustments. That page explores this subject in greater detail.
⚠️ When Performance Concerns Arise
Being told that there is a concern about your work can feel stressful, particularly if the feedback is unexpected. Try to establish exactly what the concern is before assuming what it means.
Ask for Clarity
- What specific issue has been identified?
- Can examples be provided?
- What standard was expected?
- What improvement is being requested?
- What timeframe applies?
Keep Useful Records
- Meeting dates.
- Written feedback.
- Agreed goals.
- Changes to responsibilities.
- Support or adjustments requested.
- Relevant emails and documents.
🌿 Give Yourself Processing Time
You do not necessarily have to understand or respond to every detail immediately. Where appropriate, ask whether you can review the information and follow up with questions.
👥 For Managers & Employers
Clear management benefits the whole workforce and can be particularly valuable for neurodivergent employees.
Make Expectations Visible
- Explain priorities clearly.
- Define expected outcomes.
- Provide realistic deadlines.
- Communicate changes directly.
- Avoid relying only on unwritten workplace rules.
Make Feedback Useful
- Use concrete examples.
- Separate behaviour or work issues from personality.
- Allow questions and clarification.
- Recognise strengths as well as difficulties.
- Consider whether an unidentified barrier is contributing.
⚖️ Rights, Procedures & Country-Specific Guidance
Employment law, disability protections, probation rules, disciplinary procedures and performance-management requirements are not identical across Europe.
European-level rights and equality frameworks can provide important protections, but national employment law and workplace procedures remain extremely important.
For current European information, you can consult Your Europe – Work & Retirement and EURES .
If you are dealing with a formal performance, disciplinary, discrimination or dismissal issue, seek appropriate advice from an official employment body, union, advocate or qualified professional in the country where you work.
💜 A Gentle Reminder
Feedback is information about work — it is not a measure of your worth as a person.
Clear expectations, supportive communication and appropriate workplace adjustments can turn an apparently difficult performance situation into something much more manageable.
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