Friendships, Bullying & Belonging

A gentle, child-friendly guide to friendships, bullying, and belonging — how to spot concerns, what helps, and how children and young people can get support at school and at home.

Important

This page discusses bullying and social exclusion. If reading this feels upsetting, it’s okay to pause. Support options are available below.

“Belonging isn’t about fitting in — it’s about being accepted as you are.”

— a reminder for tough moments

Why Friendships & Belonging Matter

Feeling accepted and connected helps children and young people feel safe, confident, and valued. When friendships are difficult — or when bullying happens — it can affect emotional wellbeing, learning, and self-esteem.

Struggling socially is not a personal failure. Children and young people deserve support, kindness, and safe spaces to be themselves.

Signs a Child or Young Person May Be Struggling

Sudden changes in mood, behaviour, or appetite
Avoiding school, activities, or friends
Frequent headaches, stomach aches, or feeling “sick”
Low confidence, self-blame, or withdrawal
Sleep changes, tearfulness, shutdowns, or outbursts

What Helps

Being listened to without judgement
Knowing bullying is never their fault
Trusted adults at school and at home
Clear steps for what to do next
Learning safe ways to build and maintain friendships

What to Say (and What to Avoid)

Helpful responses

“I’m really glad you told me.”
“You don’t deserve to be treated that way.”
“We can figure this out together.”

Try to avoid

“Just ignore them.”
“It’s part of growing up.”
“You need to toughen up.”

Support & Next Steps

If bullying or friendship difficulties are affecting a child or young person, support can make a real difference. Help is available at school, at home, and through professional services.

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