Today, in this world that we live in right now that there will be alot of pressures in life as well as also dealing with our own personal struggles. You see that everyday we tend to carry something with us be it emotionally, spiritually and physically. Yet, at the end of the day, again this is our choice into do we really want to carry this burden for life or do we wish to let go?   Emotional baggage is an everyday expression or saying  that correlates with many people around the world today; as it generally or usually  relates to any unresolved issues or matters  that people are carrying around from year to year without resolution that you have allowed to fester, build up til breaking point and become a part of your everyday life and  then it changes you to who you really are and what you really are as a person   Emotional baggage is a state of mind/being in which you refuse or choose not to let things go and move on or forward for the improvement and advancement of your life, and not to focus on where you’ve come from or you’ve been.   If you’re depressed, guilty, angry, fearful,  or any other hang-ups that are hindering you, stopping you, holding you back. This will mean that you may be in an emotional state that stemmed from something that happened to you in the past. Nine times out of ten, that’s an implication that you are carrying around emotional baggage; which can soon become a hindrance to your personal growth/development – spiritually, mentally, and physically and this can be detrimental to your health, life, and the people who are around you. As a metaphorical image, it is that of carrying all the disappointments, wrongs, and trauma of the past, around just in one heavy load. In our adult life or as we become an adult, emotional baggage comes in two main forms. First of the two is that there are often negative expectations created by previous relationships, perhaps of an abusive nature – a kind of bondage to the past that can contaminate new and potentially more positive interactions. The second type is of the memories that we hold onto and that is contributing to the adult emotional baggage that is recurrent bringing-up of the history of the current relationship, with the result that the minor problems in the present become overloaded by negative currents from earlier times which cannot be resolved or set aside for the good.   Behind every adult’s problems, however, there may and usually will be some deeper forms of emotional baggage that has been stemmed and are rooted in the experiences of childhood but continue to trouble personality and behavior within the adult.   Men and women may be unable to leave the pain of childhood behind, and look to their partners to fix this, rather than to address more adult concerns. Cultural and parental expectations and patterns of behavior drawn from the family of origin and still unconsciously carried around, will impact a new marriage in ways neither partner may be aware of. Similarly, as parents, both sexes may find their own childhood pasts hampering their efforts at more constructive child-rearing, whether they repeat, or seek to overcompensate for, parental patterns of the past. We all need to check our emotional baggage once in a while to check if we do have any. So, check your baggage, luggage, knapsack, or whatever else that you are carrying right now. The funny thing is that we don’t think we have any baggage at all but let’s be real that we may do and that we need to deal with it somehow!   I can hear people now thinking as well as saying to themselves this!!   “Did she say check my baggage; I ain’t got no baggage to check; maybe she needs to check her own baggage!” LOL!!! “Ain’t Got None!” We all got some form of baggage, some a bit more than others, but we all got it. We seem to think that it’s always… “It’s them, not me. It’s their fault, this relationship didn’t work out.”   Have you ever just considered the fact, that it might just be you and not them? While am writing this and you are reading this that sure I am just as guilty right now as I did have a lot of baggage in my life and I thought that it isn’t possible to get through it all and to let go.   Then you wonder why he/she stop calling!   It wasn’t the fact that your eyebrows were drawn on too thick, or the fact that your eyelashes looked like spiders, and/or the fact that your weave frizzed up at the sight of water and was weighing you down because it was 32 inches long.   NO! The reason why he stop calling and what is really weighing you down is all that emotional baggage, you’re carrying around.   And just so I’m clear; right now, I’m talking to my Ladies, I’ll get to the men shortly! But Ladies, I’m talking to you right now, because I understand how you feel and what you are going through as been there and am now I am learning to let go of all things that don’t belong in my life no matter what it is.! Trust me and believe me that  I’ve definitely been there and deciding every day is a new day for no mistakes so time to throw away what doesn’t belong in my life. And if you don’t think you have, check my list below of the 5 ways you can tell if you have emotional baggage or not! I’m sure out of 5 you will have at least 3 that you can claim. As I have checked this and it’s safe to say that I can so relate and all.   Low Relationship-Esteem.  You seem to riddle your relationship with self-doubt, self-negativity and so much