STRUCTURAL BULLYING IN AUTISTICS   “Don’t do this! Don’t do that! This isn’t the way to go! It’s never okay.” You’ll hear people saying this in ways of trying to stop bullies bullying others and to make them stop, to make them aware that they’re hurting others. Bullies tend to bully others for a lot of reasons. However, it still doesn’t give them a right, invitation, validation, reason or excuse to pick on the weak and vulnerable ones or even as they call us, victims. Every child will one day in their life get bullied and dread going to school to learn because of falling into the arms of the bully somehow as his or her target or prey. Bullying doesn’t always happen in schools. It can happen almost anywhere; like in the park or even at work for older people. It has been on my mind and heart to share with you, my inner thoughts about this topic, as well as some other topics I’ve written in my book as well as my videos; to take you on a journey and to open your eyes. Also, to tell you that, what some of us go through isn’t okay, yet there are determining factors on how we’ll solve the problem and how we will conquer it. I believe this topic and many more that I’ve written and shared needs to be addressed and need to be heard, or even to be solved one way or another. Yet, I see and hear that not many people are willing to make the first move into the step of change. I find it really sad that, with some of the situations going on in some people’s lives, people tend to pick on them and make it even worse for them. Although a change movement is coming, it’s however slow. Yet, sometimes people fear change, or people just don’t want to become unpopular, or whatever title or status they had. There are some people who haven’t been acknowledged. They’re the ones that are making a stand or they may’ve made a stand and that they’ve given up. It’ll take more than just one person to make a stand and make a difference in this world today, and sometimes, the voices of those that make a stand aren’t heard at all. Structural violence that leads to bullying may occur at any stage or age in our lives. Yet, what we do about it is the key. Do we wish to use our voices to be heard, or do we just want to sit here in silence and wait? We need to answer this question and more that needs to be answered. I feel that we shouldn’t have to sit there in silence and alone while all this is going on. Many people with Aspergers Syndrome or anyone for that matter that’s different will tend to get bullied like I was, for being different and new to school and getting used to my surroundings. As I wrote before, my parents, I along with my sister, moved a lot for our own personal reasons. I want to share this right now: Structural violence has a really subtle way of showing or presenting itself. Despite our high intelligence level as Aspies, there’ll be some people who’ll try to tear us down in any way that they can. Do we wish to go down to their level and attack them in the same way that they’re giving us? Many of us Aspies, are usually happy, bright, cheerful, joyful, and many more characteristic traits; as well as we’re usually most of the time, positive about what’s happening or is about to happen to us. This and more that you’ve read so far about my journey, about my personal struggles are still a struggle. But not as much, as I’ve found some solutions and the courage to stand up and do what I feel is right, and to use my voice and choose not to be a victim or slave to some of the personal struggles that I’ve shared with you all. These bullies or I’ll call them “Haters” that I was facing back then, wanted to knock me down based on their own personal struggles, insecurities, jealousy, hate, and more. Some of the haters come into our social circle for a reason and may feel threatened because of us being different. They also are feeling insecure about themselves, as they’re losing control. Many of these haters try to be in control of everything that’s in their lives, yet their world is crashing down for whatever their reasons are. Whatever the reasons for the situations that they’re facing, don’t give them any authority to attack us in any way or form. I find that some of the haters right now may not be able to cope with whatever situation that arises in their life. For example, if their parents are at each other’s throats arguing, throwing fists, and more, these haters may think that they’ve got the right and power to do the same as they’ve seen it in their own lives. This is how they may’ve coped most of their lives and may think it’s the only way and answer for all of this. It’s up to us how we’re going to respond and act towards these haters no matter where or when it happens to us. Do we want to fight back so that they can gain the glory and attention from us, to obtain what they so desire and crave? I’ll make this clear once again, that we shouldn’t have to excuse their behaviors and actions towards us and also accept this behaviour and attitude. As we know, the scars and wounds left behind, by us that have been bullied, are real. Yes, I do have flashbacks and nightmares of the times when I was bullied. Today, I still do; but I then decided to become a victor and not a victim towards these bullies or haters, no