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Job Offers & Decisions

Receiving a job offer can feel exciting, relieving, confusing or overwhelming. This page helps you slow the decision down, understand what is being offered and choose the option that best supports your needs, goals and working life.

💜 You do not have to decide instantly. Ask when the employer needs your answer and request the important details in writing so you have something clear to review.
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Know what has been offered

Understand Your Job Offer

Read the offer, employment agreement and any supporting information carefully. If something is unclear, write down your questions before responding.

Role & Responsibilities

Check the job title, main duties, reporting line and the outcomes you will be expected to deliver.

Hours & Schedule

Confirm normal hours, shift patterns, break arrangements, overtime expectations and any flexible-working options.

Pay & Benefits

Review the pay rate or salary, payment frequency, leave, benefits, allowances and any review arrangements.

Employment Type

Check whether the position is permanent, fixed-term, casual, part-time, full-time, temporary or contract-based.

Location & Travel

Consider the workplace location, commute, parking, public transport, travel requirements and remote-work expectations.

Start & Review Details

Confirm the proposed start date, induction, training, probation or trial arrangements, and performance review process.

Important: If you do not understand an employment term or something has legal or financial consequences, pause before agreeing and use an appropriate official or professional source for clarification.
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Clarity before commitment

Questions to Ask Before Accepting

What would a typical day or week look like?
What training and induction will be provided?
Who will I report to and how is feedback usually given?
What are the most important priorities in the first three months?
Are flexible hours, hybrid work or quiet workspaces available?
How are workplace adjustments requested and reviewed?
What equipment, uniform or documents will I need?
When do you need my final decision?
Think beyond the job title

Is the Role a Good Fit for You?

Your Strengths

Does the work use skills you enjoy, value or want to develop?

Your Energy

Can the hours, commute and workload be sustained alongside the rest of your life?

Your Environment

Consider noise, lighting, interruptions, shared spaces, uniforms and physical demands.

Your Communication Needs

Think about instructions, meetings, feedback, phone use, customer contact and team expectations.

Your Goals

Will this role support your financial, learning, independence or career goals?

Your Wellbeing

Ask whether the role feels manageable with the right support, rather than only whether you could force yourself through it.

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Look at the whole picture

Compare Your Options

If you have more than one opportunity, a written comparison can make the decision feel less tangled. Give each factor the weight that matters to you rather than assuming pay is the only important measure.

Factor Option A Option B What Matters Most to Me?
Role and tasks
Hours and flexibility
Pay and benefits
Commute or remote work
Workplace environment
Support and adjustments
Learning and career growth
Work-life balance
Neurodivergent considerations

Support Your Brain & Body

Predictability

Ask how schedules, priorities and changes are communicated. Clear expectations can reduce uncertainty.

Sensory Environment

Consider sound, light, temperature, smells, movement, clothing and opportunities for breaks.

Executive Functioning

Think about task-switching, deadlines, interruptions, written instructions and organisational systems.

Communication

Ask whether feedback can be clear, specific and written down when needed.

Adjustments

Identify practical changes that could help you access the role and perform consistently.

Recovery Time

Include commuting, masking, social demands and after-work recovery when judging sustainability.

A useful question: “What would help me do this job well without using all of my energy just to get through the day?”
A calmer decision process

Six Steps for a Clearer Decision

1. PauseAsk for the decision deadline and give yourself space to think.
2. ReadReview the offer and employment information carefully.
3. AskRequest clarification about anything that is uncertain or missing.
4. CompareLook at the role, environment, support, energy and goals together.
5. DecideChoose the option that feels most workable and meaningful for you.
6. ConfirmRespond clearly in writing and save the correspondence.
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Steps • Routines • Preparation

Checklist Cat

Turn one big decision into a few visible steps so you can see what has already been checked and what still needs attention.

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Problem-Solving • Flexibility • Independence

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Look at more than one possible path. A good decision may involve asking a question, negotiating something, accepting, or deciding this role is not the right fit.

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Respond professionally

Accepting, Negotiating or Declining

Accepting

Thank the employer, clearly confirm that you accept, restate the agreed role and start date, and keep a copy of the written confirmation.

Asking or Negotiating

Be specific and respectful. Explain the change or clarification you are requesting and give the employer time to respond.

Declining

Reply promptly, thank the employer for the opportunity and state clearly that you will not be accepting the offer.

Simple Acceptance Example

Thank you for offering me the position of [job title]. I am pleased to accept the offer and confirm my start date as [date]. Please let me know if there is anything I should complete or bring before my first day.

Simple Decline Example

Thank you very much for offering me the position of [job title]. After careful consideration, I have decided not to accept the offer. I appreciate the time you and the team spent speaking with me and wish you all the best.

The next stage

After You Accept the Offer

You only need a few immediate details at this stage: your start date and time, where to go or how to log in, who to report to, and anything you need to bring. The fuller transition into routines, induction, workplace expectations and settling in belongs on the dedicated Starting a New Job page.

Resources & downloads

Useful Job Offer Resource Types

Job Offer Review ChecklistCheck the important details before responding.
Job Offer Comparison WorksheetCompare two or more opportunities side by side.
Questions Before AcceptingPrepare clear questions for the employer.
Accept or Decline Decision GuideWork through the decision in manageable steps.
Job Offer Email TemplatesAcceptance, clarification and decline wording.
Role Fit Reflection SheetConsider environment, energy, support, goals and sustainability.
Frequently asked questions

Job Offer FAQs

Do I need to accept a job offer immediately?

No. Ask when the employer needs your decision and use the available time to review the details and ask questions.

Can I ask for the offer in writing?

Yes. Written information can make the terms easier to review and gives you an accurate record of what has been offered.

Can I ask questions after receiving an offer?

Yes. It is sensible to clarify the role, hours, support, start date or other important details before accepting.

What if the role does not feel right?

You can decline. A job offer is an opportunity to consider, not an obligation to accept.

What if I need workplace adjustments?

You can think through what support may help, when you want to discuss it and who the appropriate workplace contact may be.

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